I am diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and believe me, I am not mad or disappointed in you. We all avoid things that makes us feel uncomfortable. But if you’re reading this, you want to be different. You want to be that friend, that spouse, that parent who is there for your loved one. So first of all, thank you. Thank you for having the courage to be uncomfortable and sit with us in our pain. Here are some ideas that I have found helpful on my own depression journey.
1. Ask us how we’re doing.
2. Give us the space to say no.
Please don’t make us feel guilty. Depression is an exhausting illness, with a myriad of symptoms that can hit us out of nowhere. Sometimes, even though we love you and want to make you happy, we just don’t have the energy to do things.
3. Let us you know you support us.
Loving someone with depression is hard. And sometimes we may not always respond the way you want when you reach out. But the effort you’re making matters so much. You are our allies and many times the reason we get up and try again every day.
— Hope Cornelius